It is natural that society has expectations on how genders are supposed to act. Based on how the world portrays men and women in the media, women are expected to be seen as more reserved and act more feminine whereas men are seen as more forceful and masculine. These stereotypes are presented all the time in society and these traits in women and men is what most people would expect when meeting a man or woman. Gender Role expectations has become so prevalent in society that men and women who act outside of the norms would be viewed as more inferior and most likely face some sort of oppression. For example, if a man would be seen showing more feminine mannerisms, they are more likely to be seen as more inferior and not as “manly” like. People would also try to associate sexual orientation with masculine and feminine personality traits. If a woman were to be presenting more masculine mannerisms, people would most likely that she would be a lesbian. A couple years ago, I was trying to catch a bus ride home from my community college and I was just sitting down on a bench at the bus station. There was man who walked up to me trying to sell his mixtapes and played some of his music for me. I gave a listen, and we started talking about music and stuff. Later in the conversation, he suddenly stops talking and looks at the way I was sitting on the bench. I had my legs crossed sitting down and I he apparently viewed that as how a women would sit. He then asks me, “Why are you sitting like that?” and he also asks, “Do you really want to have that lifestyle?”. I told that this is just how I sit and he didn’t say anything afterwards. The fact that he had asked me those questions made me feel like I was different and that I should not be sitting the way I was because that’s not how men are supposed to sit. He was making the association of my feminine mannerism and my sexual orientation and make it seem like I’m choosing to have this lifestyle.
Unruly Bodies 
I appreciate what you had to say and it is true that people have preconceived notions about others in pretty much every category imaginable. You see a baby dressed in pink, a lot would assume it’s a girl. A great example you brought up was if you dress more masc as a woman, people might assume you like women. This can be said in class as we discussed bisexuals usually cuffing their jeans or ‘looking the part’ for people to know that they are apart of certain communities. In some cases such as this where people might want subtle ways to for people to know without being completely upfront with it, is it more socially acceptable to be judged in this sense? Looking through the lens of humanity in a neutral way is something everybody struggles with. As long as people are aware and try to learn and understand to not push their own social and gender category onto others, it would create a less harmful and restricting environment.
Its insane that doing small things like taking care of your nails and getting a manicure is considered “gay.” So like men are supposed to have dirty nails?
I cannot express how much I hate westernized gender stereotypes. Why is it that a “real man” must be aggressive, not emotional, and have a large penis? Why is being feminine associated so much with weakness? What I find even more frustrating is that people are led to believe (and do believe) that gender roles are biologically based. That because men have more testosterone they are allowed to be more aggressive, and to be frank it is such bullshit. Your blog post is so important to the discussion because in addition to showing how people can react negatively to any change in what they perceive your gender to be, it shows the deep rooted homophobia that goes along with it.
When I am at home I sit in a variety of “unladylike” ways, hunched over legs not closed or crossed. However the moment I leave the house I find myself changing these mannerisms, I sit up straight, cross my legs or have them on the floor and closed. In my experience, this is a safety mechanism as I don’t want to bring unwanted attention to myself. However, even if I were to sit as I normally do and how I find comfortable it is no one’s business to comment on and I am sorry you had that experience. I am repulsed that a stranger would have the audacity to comment on how someone is sitting, it is just flat-out inappropriate and again frankly non of their business.
I cant understand why do people think guys with long hair are ‘gay’ and that men can’t act feminine. My aunt thinks that guys shouldn’t have long hair because it’s apparently a ‘girl’s thing’. She also think guys wearing dresses or skirts are extremely weird become it just doesn’t make sense to her. People can decide for themselves on what to wear and how they decide to style their hair. Not only girls can have long hair and not only guys can have short hair. Girls can wear suit and guys can wear dresses too. It doesn’t make someone more ‘gay’ when they just want to dress however they want.
I find it very frustrating that the way someone sits is “gendered”. As a woman I just to find it most comfortable to sit “man spread”. One day I got shamed for it and it’s been engrained in me since then that I can only sit with my legs crossed or together. I have worked on detangling that rule in my brain, but it really is hard.