I think that a lot of why people who are neurodivergent can struggle socially is because societal expectations don’t really leave room for patience. For instance, in my high school, there was a magnet program for kids who were deemed above average academically. This was measured through a PSAT score and GPA in middle school. This magnet program had specialized courses for the students in it, and because of this, a lot of our classes were just the same like, 100 people as opposed to like the whole student body of around 2000 people. Because of this, we all at the very least knew of each other. During Sophomore year, someone transferred into the magnet program and nobody really knew her that well. After a while, people in this small magnet program made friend groups within it, and never really ventured out of them. This left the transfer kind of isolated. She tried to talk to people where she could, but people would always give her a face that said “Why are you talking to me?”. She never really picked up on this, and she developed a reputation for being kind of weird. Nobody really knew what her deal was, and nobody really gave her much of a chance to find out. For a while, I didn’t either. I ended up only talking to her because was sitting in a part of the classroom where seats were less cramped and I decided to sit next to her. After a while, I realized that we had a lot in common, and we quickly became friends. (We were both the “weird kid”, but I was just more quiet.) Even now she’s one of the few people that I stay in touch with from high school. After a while, I learned that she had ADHD, and realized she never really got a fair chance to socialize with people partly because of it. I think that if more people were willing to give the “weird kid” a chance, things would probably be drastically different for her, and many other people that are in her situation, neurodivergent or not.
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I agree, we need to educate people about neurodivergence and encourage people to be patient because some people need more time to respond or take action.
it is very important to have patience for people, and it is also important to give people a chance. i think it is also important to highlight the reason why some of those other people in your class did not give her a chance: ignorance. we are sort of taught that the traits that neurodivergent people and persons with cognitive disabilities have are “weird”. if people learned that those traits are normal, then there should not really be a need to give people a “chance” despite how they are. it should be accepted that that is how they are and it should be acknowledged that it is okay.
I completely agree I feel like in this time more people are less patient and often unforgiving if it seems like a person is “weird” Its unfair to judge someone without even giving them a chance especially if first glance they may seem different from you, This kind of treatment should be discussed about more and really highlights people with privilege and harm their ignorance might cause.