Letting go of my past

I come from a county that is pretty much in the middle of nowhere. Anyone that gets out of that area is guaranteed a better life. I left my county a week before school started when receiving a scholarship at the last minute. Before I won my scholarship, my boyfriend of almost two years cheated on me with the person that introduced us in the first place. He cheated on me for two whole months and during those two months he already knew I was going through something. Simultaneously he also made promises to me that he would make sure I was healthy and happy. He said he would protect and make sure I was never hurt again. But he was the one who hurt me. It’s odd though because he also tattooed my name on his body as a grand gesture with out my permission. I took care of him when he was sick and injured, cooked for him, and defended him when he needed it. You can offer a man gold but they will always go for copper. My best friends tell me in Spanish “Las mujeres no lloran. Las mujeres facturan” (Women don’t cry. They make money) After I turned 18 he came crawling back and at the time I thought it was because he loved me. In reality, this little boy doesn’t know how to take time for himself. “Los hombres, regresan como perros arrepentido” (men come back like dogs with no home) says my friend. I stayed with him for another two months and then eventually my feeling dissipated and vanished into thin air. I felt nothing but pity for him that he could cheat on a woman like me, who could cherish and love him for another person that would never do the same. (we don’t like the other girl because she knew the whole time we were still together) I broke up with him recently and let go of other certain personal things and I feel like I’m finally stepping foot into a new chapter in my life.

3 thoughts on “Letting go of my past

  1. Betrayal is a difficult thing to overcome, because the person that has been betrayed ultimately feels like it was something that they did or did not do to warrant the action. I actually love the idea and emotion behind the phrases that your friends used to describe men like this. In my experience, it is true. It sounds like you are on the path to realizing that you deserve better and I hope these experiences have shown you that you are stronger than you think.

  2. It sounds like you have a good and loyal friend, but remember that it’s okay to cry. It’s okay to grieve that relationship. But I am so glad for you that you are out of that toxic relationship. You deserve better. As a lovely cashier once told me (after my own breakup), “he doesn’t know what he’s losing. He’s lost a good one.” I wish you luck in your healing ❤

  3. Letting go of someone or something is a very difficult thing to do, so be proud that you were able to do it! I have also been cheated on by an ex of three years, and your friends are right about some men coming back just because they have nowhere else. I too thought my ex loved me when he said he wanted to be together again, but he still would not give me the time of day and some scars do not heal. You deserve better, you deserve someone who treats you as if you are their one and only choice. I hope this new chapter in your life treats you well!

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