As of now in the world we live in, commercials and advertisements are common staples of society that are everywhere no mater where we look or go, but most people normally don’t think twice about them or look into them deeper level. This is due to us being desensitized to surplus amount commercials and advertisements we have been exposed to over the years, to the point that we have created apps to remove them so we don’t have to see them as we surf online on websites.

But what if we step back and did an experiment? Lets say I was an alien lifeform from another planet, and these commercials and advertisements were the only medium I could use to learn about the human race and the male and females of it species. Without question, my image and idea of what humans would be highly likely and most definitely inaccurate and twisted due to such a small pool of (quiet inaccurate) information available to me. Even then, what do these advertisements say about the women and men of the human race, and what would an alien being from a foreign plane of existence assume about us humans just from looking through these advertisements?

From looking through a lifestyle and home magazine, issue: Summer 2019, there was a good amount of advertisements I could view through and observe. When looking through advertisements with men present in them, one would perceive that human men are influenced through the objects and activities that can allow them to feel strength and power that they themselves lack and how their ads can help any man regardless of ambition and ability. In this magazine, there is an enforcement of the idea around family and financial success involved as well. I took note that there is a noticeably low amount of male advertisement in the magazine, and because of that, and alien lifeform would think that men are not useful to convince sales in this sort of demographic in this particular kind of magazines.

Notably, when looking at ads with women in them (or as the star focus), there was so much more ads involving women in them compared to their male counter parts. In the magazine, almost all advertisements had women in them, even with the ones with men in them. Because of this one would have much more “information” they could work with. From what has been seen and shown in these ads, women’s concerns and ideals are much more detailed, and yet shallow in its superficial substance.

Information that has been given from these ads would say that women are much more focused on the importance of their physical appearance, even in the most simplistic of daily tasks such as the style of her kitchen, even though there was an ad with barely the bottom half of her face was shown but her body and frame took the majority of an ad, while the main point of the ad ,the oven, was just a small neat square in the center. As stated before, in these ads, women seem heavily focused on their physical beauty, especially the face. And from this, one would think a woman’s worth is based on their beauty, family life as well, but its is much more focus on how physically attractive.

It’s all strange when you look at these ads from an aliens’ point of view, huh?

[For anybody wondering what magazine I used, it was the “MAGNOLIA JOURNAL” (summer 2019)]

Before the pandemic, I was living on campus away from home, and I really enjoyed the freedom that came with it. But when the pandemic started, I was away visiting family in Arizona, so when I came back to Maryland, I had to quarantine myself at my brother’s apartment for three and a-half weeks before I could move back home with my parents.

During those three and a half week was also the last few weeks of the spring 2020 semester; so I had to take not only the last few classes in a place I wasn’t used to, I also had to take my finals there as well, which definitely had a huge effect on my mental health and grades.

Even when I was able to move back home with my mother and step-father, I wouldn’t be able to even hug my own mother for another three weeks.

Because of the COVID pandemic, I couldn’t see my friends, go outside, couldn’t go to a convention that I go to every year during the summer; and overall generally lost the ability to do the things that made me happy.

All of that stress had caused me to fall back into a very deep state of depression during the whole month of July; I stopped taking care of myself and spent most of my days sleeping because I couldn’t stand being awake, where as my dreams always seem more appealing to live in.

My depression at that time was eating me away till the point where there was almost nothing left, and I felt that the world around me had lost its color. Also, what didn’t help was the political climate/what is going on in the world, which made it hard to find any good news with what was going on during that point in time.

I had missed being able to do things and enjoy life, I missed having the freedom to go out and spending time with my friends; I missed being happy.

That summer of 2020 was, without question, one of lowest points in my adult life and I can only hope it can only go up from there.

When I was around 12-13 years old, I planned to come out to my family that I was Bisexual, I was expecting that there was going to be a lot of shock and questioning me if I was sure or if it was a phase. I was expecting my brother to think that I was overthinking it and I was just curious. I thought my mother would say that I don’t know what I’m talking about and that I am just confused. I believed that my father would blame my friends and my interest groups for “turning” me into a “queer”.

Dear God was I so wrong…

When I finally came out to my family, it seemed like I was telling them old news, information that they already know. My Mother gave me this smug look saying “Oh? is that so? I’m glad you finally noticed.” and continued to watch Big Bang Theory. My brother stated, “Oh really? Cool, hey which of these 2 girls do you think is hotter?” as he showed me a pic of 2 models in bikinis. And when I told my Father, (it was when we were driving home) he was not shocked at all and then asked me “Neat, you want chicken nuggets with your cheeseburger when we get to Wendy’s?”.

I don’t know why but at the time, I was so confused why my family didn’t shame me and were so excepting of me “coming out” (even if the closet was apparently made of glass). Maybe it’s because I heard so many horror tales of “coming out” stories going wrong and children being shamed and ostracize from/by their families, that I had an unconscious fear yet, expectation that there would be a push back from my own family when I “came out”. Was it because I felt guilty since there were so many people who were shamed by their family when they “came out”, when my family was so excepting of who I was (even if they apparently knew I was Bisexual before I did)? Did I unconsciously, deep down, wanted to start drama in my family? I don’t know why I felt ashamed that my family loves me for who I am and that I don’t have to pretend and be someone else, and maybe I will never know.

A women in uniforms is attract, so why is a school girl uniforms apart it? do you fap to sailor moon? why is grown women wearing something for a child?

The question can also be asked, why does society allow or even encourage the display of grown women acting as if they have been perpetually trapped as a twelve year old girl.

The answer could come from several arias.

Such as society’s obsession with the stone like permanence of youthful looks. A obsession as old as time.

On the opposite side of the argument one could also point to the consumers of the school girl fetish. A assumption could be made that people who have failed to grow past their teen years and refuse to move to the adult years. Growth is one of the most important things for a persons life. Emotional, intellectual and physical are all different but are equally important, this must be stated because if these developments are ignored ones personality can regress and fail to advance. This can lead a person to idealize their “prime” aka the easiest and happiest time in their life; And so these people idealize and fetishizes the youth and innocents of a school girl.

Inconclusion, we shouldn’t include the uniform of children in sexual fantasies because things of that sort of thing can lead to the danger of immoral sexual fantasies that then can lead to something actually happening to children in real life.