Growing up my grandma always commented on my body saying oh you need to lose that stomach fat, your belly is getting big , and where did all this weight come from. When I was younger I always thought why is she saying this to me I’m only 7 and I like my body I’m just having fun. I grew irritable when she would pat my stomach and say you need to lose this. I started sucking in my stomach to make it skinnier and flat so my body looked “right”. Her saying this to me so young caused me to believe I shouldn’t have any stomach fat even if I wasn’t what people would consider a bigger girl. Now as I am older I still suck in my stomach with out realizing until someone says something or I reach a relaxed state showing the effect her words have add on me after years of hearing the same thing. A student in class said the same thing about her family member mentioning her body when they would see her and it made me think of my grandmother doing the same to me. Maybe one day I will ask her why she always comments on my stomach and why she is so obsessed with losing her own stomach fat when to me it looks like a healthy normal body.
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Is my body my own or is it my race?
Race controls society no matter how you think about things. Recently I have been talking about race a lot with my friend who is mixed. It made me think of how society and cultures will make you choice a race if you are mixed. Society seeing you be too black or not black enough , too white or not white enough , too asian or not asian enough, etc. When you think race do you just see color or do you see features? Do you see mannerisms , clothings, lifestyle living? I knew I was my race because thats what society told me and they made sure I fit the description of what my race should be I grew into it and embodied it. When people are mixed they either feel the need to choose or society makes the choice for them of the race they embody. I think of how people that are mixed might feel pressure and discount from their communities that should be embracing them. A conversation I had was how can we as a society or community can embrace and make sure these individuals feel accepted and loved.
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