Hear me out.
I’m not saying therapy isn’t beneficial, but every time I have a conversation with someone about the topic they act as if it is going to fix all of your problems. I feel like if you need therapy and you personally without any outside forces feel like it’ll benefit you then okay that is justifiable. I think my stance on the subject is the way it is because I’ve never personally met anyone who willingly goes to therapy on their own. I also believe that therapy will only benefit you if you yourself are open to the idea of it.
I also just feel like some people are able to work things out on their own without needing an outside perspective as hard as it is for some to accept the fact. Me being one of those people I think I was programmed to just fix all my problems on my own and some people think that I need therapy because of that. This is the most frustrating part to me because just because I’m able to work things out and talk through things to myself I need therapy? I don’t know I just feel like not everyone needs to talk to someone. I also would like to add that yes I have been to therapy before and I’m speaking from experience of what it’s like to be in that kind of environment. Ultimately it did not end up working for me which is why I kind of turned myself into my own therapist and it’s worked a lot better that way. Therapy felt like I was relying on someone else for my emotional stability which was a feeling that I didn’t enjoy. It had nothing to do with my therapist herself she was amazing I just didn’t like the idea of therapy for me. I believe that it’s important to give yourself a chance to be there for yourself.
What are your thoughts? I’m curious.
Unruly Bodies 
You’re absolutely right, I don’t think therapy works on people who don’t want to get better. There has to be a goal or issue in mind and the dedication to work through it. I know people who’ve had mandated therapy who lied to their therapist with ease and never got anywhere. It isn’t like the movies, where your therapist will give you a long speech about what you need to do next. I think of therapy as a sound board, for people who are ready and willing to listen to themselves. I went to therapy for a year and a half without ever being able to pin down one particular reason I was there. But in my time there I accumulated so many visits of discussing the same issues, I realized I did have relationships and trauma and bad thought cycles to breakthrough. My therapist didn’t take my hard feelings home with her, she mostly just said them back to me in different ways. There were months I felt like I standing still and visits that helped me make hard decisions. I think it’s different for everyone. There are problems we can work through on our own, but sometimes it’s nice to have someone walk through your mind with you. It can be a scary place!
Honestly, this is a debate that I have with myself and others a lot. Everyone always tells me that therapy is so great and that I should go and how beneficial it would be for me. And yes, I’m sure it’s beneficial for others. I’ve seen and heard the success stories. But I’ve also done therapy sessions and I HATED them. Everyone always says, well, you probably just don’t have the right therapist but I don’t think it’s the person that’s the issue. I think that some people are just not fit for that type of therapy. I don’t like talking about things that happened to me in life. I like to figure things out on my own. I am very independent in fixing my problems. But to some, that makes people think I’m pushing my problems away and trying to fight my inner self. I don’t see it that way though. I think that it’s my own form of therapy, what works for me, because as great as people say therapy is I KNOW it is not what I want to do.