Why is it that when men sleep with multiple women or have multiple partners that its empowering and applauded, but when women decide to experiment and embrace their sexuality they’re shamed? Growing up I’ve seen the different ways that sexuality has a huge double standard. But I feel like as long as both partners are being safe and considerate, why does it matter who sleeps with who? It’s not like it effects anyone else’s life other than the ones involved, but yet someone always has something to say.
Girls are always told while growing up if you have multiple partners throughout your life time that you are of lesser value then someone who has waited to save themselves for marriage or someone that has slept with only one or two people. But in reality, just because you haven’t had as much experience it doesn’t make you any different than someone who has lots of experience. Sometimes women feel the need to experiment with their bodies, just like men do. Women just want to feel pleasure, just like men do.
This generation of young adults are completely shifting the views on sexuality and what is now considered ‘normal’ and ‘acceptable’ and it’s amazing. But let me say this, no im not promoting people to sleep around, catch unnecessary bodies and to be unsafe because there are still things to worry about such as disease and unwanted pregnancy. All im saying is stop demonizing women that also enjoy sex and don’t want commitment. There are now female artists that talk about their sex life in their music, such as Nicki Minaj, Megan the Stallion, and Sexy Redd. But it’s not just about sex, it’s about female empowerment, it’s about women being able to express what they like and what they don’t like.
Unruly Bodies 
Sex (to me) is not about female empowerment; it is about female autonomy. The idea that sex makes women feel empowered while not necessarily wrong is often used to justify having unsafe sex or younger women using it as an excuse to act more sexually mature. The autonomy that comes with sleeping around is what is important. For so long women were shamed for the same sort of “hoe” behavior that men were glorified for. By having sex at the level and frequency that one wants that person is doing things for themselves and their joy rather than the joy/approval of others.
The concept of sex and the value it has depends on each person. Since some people are asexual, the “hoe phase” is not a thing to them. Safe sex with a consenting partner can be empowering because you and the partner have the freedom to let your body feel pleasure in a world with constant uncomfortable feelings and pain. Sex is the time to let your body’s natural built-up boundaries and stress down as a de-stressor. This luxury should not be seen as a negative thing that people should be shamed for if done safely, especially based on gender because men want to sleep around and have sex, but if a woman were like how they want us to be, they would not get laid which would be a problem to them. So women should be authentic and safely attend to their body’s desires regardless of what others think.