A note to the reader: I use queer in this passage as a way to express that we are all different in our sexualities, but similar in our differences. I am not sure what I would label myself as in this part of my sexuality journey, and that word helps me to feel included and seen, while still allowing me the space to figure it out. I do not mean to offend anyone with the use of the term. I also use gay as an umbrella term in certain parts of the passage, mostly as an opposition to straightness, as that is how it is understood by my parents. However, neither of my siblings nor myself are necessarily by gay by definition, we’re just all not straight.