Okay, so this isn’t actually about the hookup itself. Sorry about the clickbait, but I promise nothing too terribly interesting happened anyway. It’s about what happened after– not immediately after the act, but the part where I reject them and find a nice neutral way to say “yeah the sex was fine, I’m not super interested in continuing tho” and move on with my life. I would have titled this the worst breakup but it wasn’t really a breakup, it was just uncomfortable.

Anyway, last November I hooked up with a person, we had a short lived friends with benefits arrangement (what a stupid term, friend with benefits… but I digress) and then I accidentally-on-purpose ghosted them because they got clingy and I was not interested in a relationship with them. (I usually communicate with people clearly instead of ghosting, we ARE trying to heal after all. This situation was unique, I said I needed time/space and then I honestly forgot that something needed to be said. Oops.) Well, by the time I actually talked to them again, they asked if I was ready to date yet and I finally just said I wasn’t interested, at which point they found it appropriate to say “fucked around and caught feelings…p*ssy too bomb! haha” and a few more vague references to the hooking up throughout the conversation WHILE I was actively rejecting them (i cannot make this up, if i still had the screenshots i’d post them here.) I don’t remember the specifics of the conversation but that one line is BURNED into my brain because. Wow. I cannot believe it needs to be said but don’t talk about my body while I’m rejecting you?