I struggle to type (I’m a great typist, 88 wpm, not to brag or anything) that I suffer from chronic illness. I have an idiopathic immune system “issue” that makes my body more susceptible to bacterial/viral infections. Despite being more wordy, for whatever reason, that’s a lot easier for me to type. So basically, I get sick. A lot.
Biases
You are so fat what happened to you?
You are so fat what happened to you?
This is a question that I am asked all the time. I hear it from some of my friends who have known me for many years. They have witnessed the weight gain over the past couple of years. Why is that people cannot except you for who you are and not what you look like. Continue reading
Gender Roles
Being a heterosexual male who likes to dress nice and take care of himself I was often told its “gay” or “feminine”. I was expected to not like to dress nice or be up to date with the latest trends. Continue reading
Be Polite
“Don’t say that, you’ll make people feel uncomfortable!” “You shouldn’t speak that way, what are people going to think?” “Be quiet, we’re talking right now.” “You know, you talk a lot.””Why are you so bothered by it, it’s not that serious, it was just a joke. Can’t you take a joke?” “That’s not ______, I’m just giving an opinion!”
I know exactly what you’re doing.
Today is an opportunity.
Yesterday morning on my way to my 8am exam I stopped by Starbucks to grab a cup of coffee. I was super stressed about my exam and I had not gotten much sleep since I was awake most of the night studying. Continue reading
Body image and polyamory: an exploration
It’s endlessly intriguing to me how our view of certain things can be changed completely by new experiences. I have been thinking about this a lot lately, because after 11 years together, my husband and I have taken an unexpected (but very positive) step with our marriage — we are exploring polyamory. Something I took for granted over the course of more than a decade in a stable relationship was how many things I didn’t have to think about, especially when it came to my body. Continue reading
The Price of Self-Esteem
Being bigger is not easy, as anyone who is can tell you. From a bit of chub to full on large, people have a hard time dealing with it. Larger women are more often seen as either repulsive or sexually intriguing, while larger men are seen as pals, buddies, men who know how to live. The gendered standards for both are so simple and terrible.
I wish I had that luxury.
Dressing the Part
We live in a society that connects dress with identity. If you dress like this… then you must be that… Continue reading
Trigger Warning: Triggers
“Wait, I don’t get it, why can’t you come to the party tonight?” My best friend asks, tilting her head in confusion as I struggle to finally say that after all of my drug abuse, I feel extraordinary uncomfortable around any sorts of substances besides shisha. Continue reading
how do you experience the world?
I spent twenty minutes with my eyes closed, and I went about my daily business in my room. I opened drawers, found objects, put on bracelets, blew up a balloon. I decorated my room some. I even drew a picture.
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