As with many people, i have come to adopt the word ‘same’ into my vernacular.
body politics
How are you doing?
Lately, I’ve run out of creative, small talk-ish responses to when folks ask me how I am doing.. I’ve now resigned to just a soft smile and ‘I’m doing okay.’
I’m not lying… I am doing okay. I mean, I’m graduating in 27 days…I got my very first full time job interview at a place within the very narrow field of sexual assault advocacy (which is actually tough to come by).. so you know, all things considered, I’m doing okay.
Every now and again though, I get a weird tug on my heart strings and it reminds me that Donald Trump is president elect. A man who loudly endorses xenophobia, transphobia, homophobia, sexual assault as “locker room talk,”islamophobia, white supremacy, ableism, and the list goes on. We’ve chosen him to represent us to the remainder of the globe. This dude. It’s all just wild.
I’ve seen folks move on from sadness to beginning the process of normalizing this. I’m not mad, really.. It’s human nature to take something so traumatic and violent, namely electing this dude, and immediately try to find a way to rationalize things. Otherwise, how would any of us ever sleep at night?
What bothers me is this move to normalize this person’s dialogue and rhetoric…
“Give it a chance”
“He might not be so bad”
“It’ll be okay”
Really? For whom exactly will it be okay? What bodies will benefit or even minimally impact?
I’m a queer, immigrant, woman of color, and a sexual assault survivor.
Where exactly am I supposed to seek shelter? Where do I find the safety that’s been so violently taken from me?
This expectation that it’s now November 24 and therefore I should be over it.. I should just accept it.
Accept that I’m not welcome here.
Accept that my beloved friends will have their rights stripped from them further
Accept that folks a community that I love and am a part of will be hurt even more.
Accept that despite working toward it, I won’t be able to dry all the tears that I want to.
Accept this violent bursting of my safety bubble followed by an attempt to take boiling emotions and make them lukewarm so that the we don’t disturb the peace.
I hope that soon I will be able to move from this, at times, paralyzing sadness soon.
I have every intention in being active in resistance, in allyship, and in radical love for myself and for others.
Please feel free to share thoughts. I’d love to hear from you. I’d love to build community.
Self-Care
I feel like many college students understand that feeling when you wake up one morning, after a night of binge watching Netflix, writing that paper you should have done last weekend, or just sleeping on your wrong side and knowing that your body (or your mind) is just not going to work with you today.
As you walk through campus hoping that this cup of coffee is going to work until you and your lovely bed can meet once again, it is important to give yourself some care.
There are so many things going on in your life but sometimes it is most important to remember what is most important… you and your well being. Continue reading
First Date Who Pays ?
Not too long ago, my friends and I were having a conversation about who should pay on a date, the men or the women. It seems the minute we talk about things in terms of gender, that’s when people want to have something to say. One of my friends thought that because her date is a guy that meant he had to pay, because it just makes a “good impression.” So then I asked what about a gay couple who goes on a date, she said whichever person is more “manly” should pay. Continue reading
Emotional Trauma & Soul Ties
Recently, I was introduced to something called a “soul tie.” First of all let me explain how I got there. As we are approaching the end of the year I’ve been trying to reevaluate all of the life events that happened to me throughout the year. So I wrote everything down from January 1 up until now, this helped me look at everything the good and the bad, so that I could look at the good and figure out how to make it even better, and look at the bad and use it as a learning experience for the future. The last two years have been the most challenging years of my life. Continue reading
Why this Election Matters to Me?
Like many others, I am writing about the United States 2016 President Elect and how this event has impacted me and those around me.
On Tuesday morning, November 8th, 2016, I woke up for my 10:00am class feeling confident and proud that that day would be the day that the United States of America would have their first woman President.
I had no doubt in my mind that my country would vote for the candidate that is not a racist, sexist, misogynistic, and perverted asshole. Excuse my language, but to be very honest, I can not think of any other “appropriate” word to describe the man who is now our President Elect. Continue reading
what I’m NOT thankful for
I’m not thankful for all the lives that had to be raped, diseased spread and killed for this country to be present.
I’m not thankful for the cultures and traditions that have been wiped out so that it be exchanged with sports and consuming dead animals.
i’m not thankful for all the wars we’ve created because of greed and fear from white supremacy.
I’m not thankful to be human sometimes.
I’m not thankful that i have to shut up so i can let people live comfortably and not ethically.
I’m not thankful for all the marginalized people have to be marginalized.
I’m not thankful for specieism.
I’m not thankful for a gap in peoples conscience.
I’m not thankful for time.
I’m not thankful for the sun that burns my skin and dries my lips because we’ve killed the ozone layer.
I’m not thankful for all man made constructions
But I’m thankful I’m thankful for living this life.
(As a spiritual person I’m giving thanks for my life everyday, but there deserves a space where i can express what I’m not thankful FOR in life… (you know, duality also a gemini). It’s okay to pessimistic sometimes and feel hopeless of humanity but I’ve came to a conclusion that humans are like sheep we like to follow the crowd and that if are following beliefs and ideologies that don’t just benefit us but other species we could live in much less harm)
DON’T BE A FOLLOWER BE A LEADER !!!
A for effort?
My brother and I were driving to school on Friday last week and on the radio they were talking about Obesity. Obesity is a huge problem in the United States of America. More than one-third (35.7 percent) of adults are considered to be obese. More than 1 in 20 (6.3 percent) have extreme obesity. Almost 3 in 4 men (74 percent) are considered to be overweight or obese. These are just numbers and there is more to it than that. But we cannot ignore the amount of health problems that comes with obesity.
So apparently right now some companies are trying things out to reduce the level of obesity in America. I heard them talk on the radio about how companies are considering taxing and also reducing the sugar quantity in all these soft drinks or beverages, in order to get people not to buy it as much and also drop a couple of pounds.
In my opinion, while these sound like interesting methods to cut down the obesity level in America, I just don’t think they would really be effective. Like how much tax are you really going to be allowed to put on something like soda to get people who really want it not to buy it? Maybe reducing the sugar quantity might help, but I feel as though a lot of people might be angered by this.
Kanye West: Mental Illness is Real
We all know one of the current hot topic at the moment is Kanye West and his mental breakdown. It all started recently during Kanye’s concert for his tour, when he started ranting about different things like his support for Donald Trump, his anger towards Beyoncé’s performance at the VMA for her “formation” song which is based on the Black Panthers theme. He also mentioned Jay-Z and said “don’t send your people for me” referring to the whole illuminati thing, and also how people have been lied to by the media and the radio. A lot of videos have been circulating on twitter showing Kanye really strange and concerning behavior. And a lot of people have been reacting to this, and many people seem to be angry about this. Continue reading
Queer Time in Donald Trump’s Amerikka
There have been interesting parallels between our class discussions around queer crip time and my current life. This has only become more obvious post election as I scramble to rework my five-year plan. I am not sure how much to share because while I am a very open person there are some aspects of my life that I prefer to keep private.
