What happens when the mind makes a date the body can’t keep?
body politics
Bingo
Body Empowerment
Each of our bodies is a spectacular part of our being. Many of them are disabled, hurt, pained and self-conscious, yet they are still unique and something to be proud of. Continue reading
The Disability of Stress
When most people think of disabled bodies, they think of people with visible, physical disabilities. Few people understand, or even believe in the existence of invisible disabilities. In my case, I am not disabled, physically or mentally, until stress enters my life. Then things change. Continue reading
Anxiety: A Common Body Story
I have Generalized Anxiety Disorder, which means my brain doesn’t know when to stress out about something and when not to. Two of my closest friends also have anxiety, and in a weird way I think it’s made us closer. The stress from our anxiety affects our minds and our bodies. Continue reading
Am I the only one who wants to be monogamous?
Pont des Arts, Paris, December 2013
Okay, I know this isn’t the case…but seriously. I’ve had shitty luck when it comes to dating women. Continue reading
The Body and How It Changes
Disability is an interesting subject when one gets truly down to it. What is considered a disability and what is not also varies. Mental disabilities, physical disabilities, these are both types, but what about when there is a confluence of two of three types all at once?
I call that, when I am referring to my own situation, being trans.
Understanding Disability
What makes a person disabled? Continue reading
Skin.
I never knew that one’s skin could tell so many stories until I realized that the most common questions I get are about my skin. Continue reading
Advice Column
What actually influenced my writing this morning was a Men’s Health magazine that was left on my coffee table by one of my friends. And of course as curiosity will sometimes have its way with me I began to read. I thought, “this is where the secret to getting my abs right may be”.
Skimming through I see the advice column with weird questions. The ones that society kinda expects no one to ask or for you to get through different clues. Things like “How do I ask this girl out?” or “when is the best time to get my anus bleached?” lined the pages of this wonderful magazine. The answers to these questions were too political and inapplicable to all types of bodies. So I answered them
- I have trouble holding in my “gas” in when I go on first dates because I just get so nervous. How can I prevent this from happening? I haven’t really tried anything and I am open to suggestions”
Pre-date poops dude, flush everything out of your system and take one of those “gas x” pills and you will be set. And if you’re a confident guy and your body is giving you issues during the date. Let one loose and blame it on how nervous you are and laugh it off. They probably let on go before you guys met up
- How many dates should I wait to have sex? will they stay after a one night stand?
You just gotta play it safe, speedy. Its no specific number. You can have sex on the first date or on the 81th date. If they were gonna leave, they’d leave
- How can I make my body like a model?
Its really nearly impossible. Our bodies are all different. Some people can even sleep at the gym and they won’t have the chiseled abs you seen in the magazines. You gotta love yourself already and make the changes you want according to your own body. If you have a specific body type goal in mind you’re just setting yourself up to be crush when natural gym isnt getting you there
