The sexualization and ostracization of the female breast and nipple.

Society places great importance on breasts as a defining characteristic of women and womanhood, but at the same time recoils at the sight of them. During puberty, growing breasts define the shift from “girl to woman”. But growing breasts also means a growing problem: alienation. 

This is because women’s breasts aren’t viewed as the fatty mass of flesh they are, instead they’re viewed as inherently sexual and provocative. This can be seen in art dating back centuries, up to modern day advertisements and media. Women’s breasts are considered totally different from men’s, even though men do and can have larger breasts than women. Why is that? Because one is sexualized and one is not. While men’s breasts can be sexualized, the difference is that they aren’t always thought of as sexual. Men’s breasts can be neutral, athletic, robust, while women’s are almost entirely thought of in a sexual manner, no matter the situation. Women’s breasts cannot be neutral without backlash. 

Depending on the size of your breasts, shape of them, color of them, you will be judged and assumptions will be made about you. Large breasts mean your sexual, seductive. Small breasts means you’re less of a woman or prepubescent. None of this is true though. Breasts do not define womanhood, are not inherently sexual, and do not represent the content of your character. 

“Why I don’t relate to my skin colour” is a video, created by the creator of the Kidology YouTube channel (I’m going to be calling them Zee, as it’s one of the answers she gave when asked about her name, and the one I see others most often use), and it’s one that I have found myself repeatedly returning to. Zee’s relationship to race and society are polar opposite to mine, and hearing her experiences has pushed me to rethink the way I think of my own race.

Content Warning: The video being referenced, and to a lesser extent this blog post, focuses on racial relations in an institutionally segregated South Africa, and talks about it from the perspective of someone raised within that system.

I don’t know if the title should really be called this or not but I wanted to talk about how bodies are portrayed in different settings like I find it weird when I think of my body socially and then from a medical standpoint. When I look at my body compared to society’s standards… I am disgusted. I wish it wasn’t the case but I don’t like how I look. I could do a deep dive into whose fault it was to give me such an outlandish idea of what bodies should look like. Especially since every body type is different and made beautifully. However, that’s a lot to unpack so instead I will just say it is my own weaknesses and justified insecurities that make me this way. Welp.. that was dark…anyway… I wanted to talk about how when we think socially about our bodies certain thoughts come to my mind such as what style is in, or what body proportions are popular. Like all I see on social media is BBL’s or small waist coke body types and that’s what’s popular and that’s what everyone wants to look like. However, when I go to the hospital I don’t see that doctors explain the body in totally different terms. But what’s crazy is they are referring to the same thing. They are referring to the body. However, when they explain it to me it’s deeper than just body proportions or what clothes would look the best and fit the best or how tiny your hips are. In my opinion it’s more intimate when health professionals discuss your body. I start thinking about every cell and every vein \and how they all team up to help you breathe. I just think its wild how a body is just a body until a different context is applied.

Racism is a social construct that has been used to oppress people of color for centuries, and this has had a lasting impact on American society.  As a result, racism has prevented people of color from having equal access to opportunities and resources. Discrimination against black athletes has been a persistent problem throughout history. This systematic racism has led to discrimination against black athletes, who are often not given the same opportunities as their white counterparts.

 One way that racism manifests itself is through the use of stereotypes. When it comes to black athletes, there are several stereotypes that are commonly used. These stereotypes often portray black athletes as being inferior to their white counterparts. Also, these stereotypes are often perpetuated by the media, and they can have a significant impact on the way that black athletes are perceived by the public. As a result of these stereotypes, black athletes often face discrimination in various areas of their lives. This discrimination can take the form of negative comments that are made about them when they are on television, in the media, or when they are working. This discrimination has a negative impact on their careers, and it can make it difficult for them to achieve their goals. 

Additionally, black athletes are often targets of violence, and this violence can have a significant impact on their lives. This is especially true for black athletes who are trying to make a name for themselves in a predominantly white sports environment. For example, black athletes who are successful in their chosen sport often face a lot of criticism from the media and the public. These stereotypes are not only inaccurate, but it also results in black athletes feeling like they have to work twice as hard to prove themselves. One example of this is Tiger Woods, who is one of the most successful black athletes in history. Tiger Woods faced a lot of racism when he first started playing golf, and this racism had a negative impact on his career. It was not until he became one of the best golfers in the world that people started to accept him. 

From the time children are born, they start experiencing things that will shape them into the person they will become. One way to look at how different phenomena can have meaning in our experience is through gender. Boys grow up being told that they have to be strong or be a leader, while girls are told that they should be nice and helpful. Boys are praised for being loud and sharing their ideas, while girls are bossy or seen as annoying if they are too loud. Boys have to be tough and not show emotion, while girls are emotional and cry a lot. Through these experiences and interactions centered around gender, children get the idea that either if they are a boy, they should be a protector or have control and if they are a girl, they should be quiet and be people pleasers. It is through daily experiences that these ideas are introduced and maintained.

I can speak from experience as an American-born Muslim who was raised in the US when I say that Muslims will always be socially stigmatized. The worst thing I could do was sit in my social studies lessons, praying that September 11th wouldn’t be right around the corner. I would always try staying home that day. When the subject was discussed on the day of the lesson, everyone would turn their heads, and the classmates would smirk cruelly as I sat there with nothing to say and nothing I could do because that’s how the people around us saw us Muslims. It’s the worst feeling a Muslim could experience. Islamophobia was initially defined as an unjustified hatred of Islam and hate against all or many Muslims. Middle Eastern communities, especially Muslims and Sikhs, were stereotyped as “terrorists.”

Due to the prevalence of Muslim representations belonging to non-White populations, racialization and religion are typically intertwined. Islamophobia has an impact on the lives of Americans with Muslim-like aspects. It goes beyond race and includes things like attire. External qualities that make one more susceptible to Islamophobia include having a particular skin complexion, donning a headscarf or turban, and conversing to a particular accent; nevertheless, non-Muslims like Christians can also possess similar traits.

Numerous faiths have adopted racism from a phenomenological perspective, but Islam is a religion that it has significantly impacted. Its fundamental objective is to demonstrate that prejudice as a form of poor socialization is not a temporary deficit that automatically vanishes in completely functional societies. Islamic racism has an authoritarian impact that affects the lives of its own followers, altering their routines and, ultimately, religious representations. I’m among them. Phenomenology is sometimes referred to as the study of phenomena as they appear in human perception, as well as the awareness, cognition, and meaning that they have for us. Phenomenology, to put it another way, is the study of how people actually perceive their surroundings.

I hate wearing jeans. At least 95% of the jeans at the store. They never seem to fit right, the waist is too big, the hips are too small. High-rise never hits at the right spot, and I swear you need special underwear (and a special kind of confidence) to wear low-rise jeans. When I think about the clothing I wear most of the time it’s based on feel. How it feels physically on my body. I hate too tight jeans, too tight turtlenecks, and too tight shirts. I hate when the neckline hits in the wrong spot, when I can feel the button of my pants when I sit down, and when my skirt is too flowy. There’s something called too much of a breeze you know? And not to forget the feeling of peeling your thighs apart after sitting down for too long. But most of the time the feeling of uncomfortable clothing cannot be put in words. Some times the clothes I like one day feel completely different on another day. I feel like I either end up in something resembling pajamas, or dressing up so much it feels like a costume.

Bodies are beautiful, complex vessels of our minds and souls and hearts. Bodies deserve to take up as much space as they need, regardless of race or gender expression.

Unfortunately, that’s not how society is socialized. We’re taught both implicitly and explicitly that cisgender white men can take up as much space as they want, and if you don’t fall into any of those categories then you’re simply out of luck. Minimize yourself as much as you can, though, because God forbid you get in their way and take up their space– don’t you want to get married to one of them one day?